Thoughts on gender

Ok so lately we have been rather silent over here for many reasons, but just lately some of my friends in Facebook land have been linking to blogs on gender and transitioning. I have read a bit of these links and have also checked out some of the others other posts to see if the the post was a one time thought or if it was a set in stone belief.
One of these writers is very anti trans and quite verbal in her intolerance. This writer scared me very much. She is self identifying ad butch but it seems to me that she takes mo time to even start. To educate herself on the different options for trans or e Ben the reason a person would identify as trans or queer. While I was browsing her blog I felt like there was a lot of hate speech on it. It also seemed that she was unwilling to even listen to people who’s thoughts differed from her beliefs. This also scares me as she is posting these thought in a very public forum and could be scaring young trans people out of decisions they have made for themselves. Now I know she has a right to her thoughts as I do to my own but I think if you are going to be so public with you thoughts and comments you should be willing to listen to other people as well ad educating yourself on more then one side of the topic.
The other blog that got me to thinking was one untitled trans 101 it’s not your mothers trans anymore. This post to me seemed to be on the opposite side of the argument from the last blog I mentioned. Heck it even made me feel like I had no right to declare myself gender queer. Now I am obviously very supportive of the trans community. Thad and I have a very loving and supportive relationship. We don’t draw the normal gender lines and heck knows we don’t really stick to any given roll at anytime. And that flexability works very well for us.
I have been much happier with out having to constantly define my gender due to the preferences of my partner. If I feel femme on day we go with that or however the mood strikes either one of us. I am not wanting to transition, I am quote happy existing in the in-between right now.
But these other blogs that are surfacing make it seem like it’s not ok. And while I am strong enough to stand under the pressure I am not real sure about the youth of today.
We have a hard enough time as a community getting the respect and rights that we deserve, we don’t need the added pressure from inside the community.
On a slightly different note…. I am looking to get involved with youth pride here. I would like to do something like big brothers big sisters if they have a program like it. If not maybe look into working with them to get something like it started.
This is where I will stop for now. I am sure I will have more thoughts to add later.